A young woman was left when a potential suitor abused her for paying for her own food on the first date.
The woman said she had met the man through a friend and thought the date had gone so well that they would have another.
But he was far less satisfied with the experience, as he later complained to friends that she split the bill at the expensive restaurant.
‘It’s a nice place and I have been meaning to go, I figured worse case scenario I would get a chance to check out the food,’ the woman wrote on Reddit.
‘We actually had a nice time. I ordered drinks, appetisers, my main and dessert. He only had water and his main,’ she explained.
Once the meal was over she asked for separate bills as she has a policy of always paying her share on first dates.
‘I emphasise first because I thought it went well. He seemed like a genuine and pleasant guy, I was looking forward to seeing him again,’ she said.
An American woman who went on a pleasant date set up by a mutual friend was shocked to hear that her date called her a ‘d***’ for covering her half of the bill (stock image)
But the man went back to their friends and said he was peeved at only having one dish on the understanding that he would be footing the entire bill.
‘He thought I was kind of a d*** for not telling him I was paying for my own meal,’ she said.
‘The reason he only had water and a main was because he thought he was going to be paying a bunch of money for food and drinks.’
The young woman took to social media to ask if she should have let him know she would pay her own way.
But most people sided with her, saying the man brought the predicament upon himself by choosing a restaurant he could not afford, rather than meeting for a coffee as she initially suggested.
‘It was self induced. He wanted dinner and then doesn’t have enough money to actually afford it,’ one man said.
‘All first dates should be split…but you always pick a place that you can afford if you have to pick up the whole tab. The guy was an idiot,’ he added.
Others said it was common for there to be some awkwardness around paying for a meal on a first date.
‘Would it have been better to specify in advance who was paying? Sure…but it’s completely normal to suddenly realise you had different expectations about who would pay,’ one woman said.
‘There is nothing wrong in your assumption that you’d split the cost. For him to think you were ‘kind of a d***’…is absurd. It strongly suggests to me that there should not be a second date,’ she added.
People also accused the man of being more interested in the restaurant than he was in her.
‘It suggests that the lost opportunity for food was more important than the date itself,’ one woman said.
While others did not judge him for being put out over the missed food.
‘Yeah. It’s okay to bummed but name calling is way too far,’ one woman said.
Others said he deserved a second chance.
‘The guy could have been hungry and nervous about not making a false move because he really likes her,’ one person said.
