A woman has admitted she’s been left questioning her husband’s sexuality after he asked her to join him in a threesome with his male best friend.
Taking to British parenting platform Mumsnet, the woman explained that although her partner of 17 years is ‘in touch with his feminine side’, ‘him being gay hadn’t ever crossed my mind’.
She revealed that her husband asked her if she would want to have a threesome with him and his friend, who was also the couple’s best man at their wedding.
The woman explained that her partner and his mate have been friends since school but have gotten closer lately – and she fears the relationship may have ‘changed’.
Many rushed to the comments to offer some advice with some saying she should ‘leave the marriage.’
A woman has admitted she’s been left questioning her husband’s sexuality after he asked her to join him in a threesome with his male best friend (stock image)
The post read: ‘I’ve been with DH (dear husband) for 17 years now, married for eight. We have two children together DS (dear son) and DD (dear daughter), and have built a wonderful family together.
‘I had never questioned DH’s sexuality, aside from passing comments from my friends about some of DH’s slightly feminine qualities.
‘Whilst he is in touch with his feminine side, he is an electrician and had always loved a pint down the local with his mates so him being gay hadn’t ever crossed my mind.
‘He has always had a close relationship with his best friend however recently I feel that things have changed…
‘Him and Paul* have been best friends since school and Paul was best man at our wedding. Me and Paul get on well but don’t have a close friendship ourselves as I have my own friends.’
She went onto explain that she had no personal connection to her partners friend but her husband approached her with the idea of a ‘potential threesome’.
She continued: ‘Having been together for so long it’s fair to say that things aren’t as exciting as they once were in the bedroom for DH and I respectively, so I understand wanting to spice things up now that the children are older.
‘DH gave little justification as to where the idea has come from, yet seemed enthusiastic and reassured me that it would be fun for all three of us.
Taking to British parenting platform , the woman explained that although her husband is ‘in touch with his feminine side’ she never questioned his sexuality until now
Some suggested that her partner might be cheating on her and others said he definitely could be gay
‘This has made me question DHs sexuality as Paul himself has never shown much interest in me other than pleasantries, making me wonder if this was DHs idea and I’m not sure what that would mean. DH and Paul have always been very close and confide in each other but I am now starting to question the nature of their relationship. Any advice welcome.’
Some suggested that her partner might be cheating on her and others said he definitely could be gay.
One person said: ‘In my opinion, and it’s only my opinion… I don’t understand how someone can love another person yet want to have sex with someone else and watch them do the same.
‘I can’t imagine ever doing it, if my husband suggested a threesome, I’d assume he was going to or had been cheating. I’d leave the marriage.’
Another said: ‘I’d be wondering how the subject came up between your DH & Paul. They’ve obviously had the conversation already.
‘I don’t think they’d be willing to risk their friendship by having sex and possibly ruining your marriage just for the sake of experimenting, if there wasn’t some strong attraction there already.
‘I’d put money on them having had sex, or at least explored things already, possibly even years ago.
‘If you agree to the threesome they can go ahead and explore with your “consent”, low and behold afterwards your DH has discovered all these new feelings have emerged & he has done a lot of soul searching & he & Paul are really surprised to discover they’ve got feelings for each other, & actually, darling, I might be gay, and you’ve helped me see it.’
Meanwhile others claimed the original poster shouldn’t worry about her husband’s suggestion
Meanwhile others claimed she shouldn’t worry about her husband’s suggestion. One person said: ‘Of course he’s not gay. He just wants a threesome and has decided his mate is probably the best person to do it with.
‘Guarantee that even if you said yes it wouldn’t happen anyway, they’ve probably just got pissed down the pub one night and thought it was an excellent idea. Just say no if it’s not for you and move on with your day.’
Another said: ‘Wanting a threesome does not make you gay. Wanting to expand your sex life after 17 years is very common and a way of trying to keep things exciting in the bedroom. Wanting a threesome is a very common fantasy.
‘Wanting to fantasise, then explore, your first threesome with your best mate is not that unusual. 3 people I’ve known have drunkenly said “if I’m ever going to do it, I’m going to do it with my best mate”. One of those people did go through with it with her best friend.
‘He may not have even thought that things like sex toys, new positions, role play, talking dirty, erotic fiction etc will be a great way of spicing things up. Some men just seem to default to “involve another person, that’ll do it” without even thinking through the long term implications of what that means.’
Meanwhile another said: ‘I don’t get the connection between wanting a threesome and your DH being gay. A threesome might not involve any physical contact between your DH and DHs friend (tmi to describe).’
A fourth said: ‘Loads of straight men get off on fantasies of ‘sharing’ their wife with another bloke. It doesn’t mean he’s gay.’
*Name has been changed
