Babies on the brain.
Benny Blanco revealed that he and his fiancée Selena Gomez are already thinking about having kids.
“I love kids; I love being an uncle. I want to be a dad, though, God willing,” Blanco said in an interview with InStyle published Wednesday.
“I’m just dreaming and praying every day,” he said of starting a family.
The couple already took the next big step in their relationship in February by purchasing a $35 million Spanish-style estate in Beverly Hills, Calif.
“I love making a house my own,” Blanco told the outlet. “I’m not in there with the staple gun, but I’m in there with tchotchkes and a lot of creativity and heart. I hate it when you go into a person’s house and you’re like, ‘Ooh, it feels like nobody lives here!’ I don’t want to be scared to sit down on s–t.”
The music producer admitted that he learned most of his relationship advice from his mom before he and Gomez became serious.
“My mom always took the time to explain how a female mind works because she was going through so many dating traumas when I was growing up,” he shared of his mother, who is divorced from his dad.
“I’ve had some tough times, but I’ve always been like a very happy person. I just wake up stoked every day,” he said.
While Blanco claimed there have been no men in his life to teach him about “emotional competency,” he has learned what not to do by observing his friends’ dating lives.
“Some things [I] learn from friends of mine. I see them do something stupid, and I’m like, ‘Oh my God, I’ll never do that in a relationship,’” he said. “Then sometimes you see your friend do something rad, and you’re like, ‘Ooh, I’m taking that little idea.’”
He added, “You stop learning when you stop listening.”
Over the years, Blanco has learned that men struggle to actually listen to what women want.
“I think people’s biggest problem, especially men, is we don’t listen all the time… A woman will tell you exactly what she needs,” he said.
At 37 years old, Blanco hopes that he knows “how to treat a woman by now.”
“Like, you should always ask a woman what they wanna do. Don’t always talk about yourself. Then you put it into practice… and you f–k up so much, oh my God,” he said, before asking, “You know how many frogs I had to kiss to get to Selena?”
While Blanco acknowledged that his exes were “beautiful frogs,” he emphasized that most guys are “so bad” with women.
“I know so many awesome women who are single. And it’s like, how are they single? They’re 10 out of 10!” he said. “But there are so many f–kboys. Don’t settle, ladies. Not for some dude that uses more hair gel than you do.”
The “Only Murders in the Building” actress, 32, and Blanco went public with their love in December 2023 — six months after they started dating. A year later, they got engaged.
While Blanco has been open about wanting to have kids with Gomez for quite some time, the singer revealed last year that she can’t carry her own children due to medical issues.
However, Gomez, who suffers from lupus, confirmed to Vanity Fair that she would be interested in starting a family by using a surrogate or adopting.
“It made me really thankful for the other outlets for people who are dying to be moms. I’m one of those people,” she told the outlet at the time. “I’m excited for what that journey will look like, but it’ll look a little different.”
