A body language expert has revealed the three things you shouldn’t do when meeting someone for the first time – especially if you are at home.
From sprawling out on the couch to sitting on the edge of your seat – there are some very common mistakes people make when they have someone over for the first time.
Adrianne Carter revealed the top three after ‘at home date night’ searches soared on Google and TikTok.
Adrianne said the most important thing was being conscious of how your body language might make others feel.
‘We’ve all heard the saying “sharing is caring”. The key to getting this right is to be considerate and kind first to the other person, and then make yourself comfortable by following their lead,’ she said.
You should never cross your arms or legs, or perch on the edge of your seat when trying to make a good first impression
Never cross your arms and legs
Folding your arms can make you look closed off or defensive, she explained.
‘When you’re in a new relationship or you’ve just started dating someone, it’s important to keep your body language as positive as possible,’ she said.
In practice, this means keeping your arms and legs uncrossed – even if it’s a comfortable position to sit in.
‘You want to make it clear you’re happy to be there,’ she added.
It isn’t ideal to ‘hog’ the couch when meeting someone in your home for the first time
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Don’t sprawl on the sofa
While it’s good to appear relaxed, especially on a date, sprawling out across the entire sofa might be ‘too much too soon’.
‘Yes, spread-eagling on the cushions is one of the most comfortable ways to sit, but you need to be respectful of other people’s space,’ she said.
‘They might not feel as relaxed lounging next to you straight away and want to ease into it at their own pace. Let them choose a comfy spot first, before plonking yourself down on the sofa.’
Don’t perch on the edge of your seat
Even though sprawling on the sofa is a no-go, it’s important not to go too far in the other direction either, coming across as tense or nervous, she added.
‘So, while perching on the edge of your seat might seem like the most polite option (especially if you’re in their home), this type of body language makes it look like you want to make a quick getaway or you’re not staying for long,’ she said.
Allow yourself to sink into the cushions and feel more comfortable in your environment.
Adrianne’s tips were presented by DFS, UK-based furniture suppliers.
