A wedding is on the way—and a new album—for Selena Gomez and her music producer fiancé Benny Blanco. But their relationship hasn’t always been snuggling up together or gushing about each other on social media. In a new interview, the pair revealed they came *this close* to breaking up because Gomez is so famous.
Blanco wanted to take their relationship ‘slow’ because of Gomez’s level of fame
In a joint Rolling Stone interview to promote their new album, “I Said I Love You First,” which drops on March 21, 2025, Gomez and Blanco shared how they nearly broke up. (The two got engaged in December 2024 after a year-and-a-half of dating.) The reason? The Grammy nominee’s level of fame.
“I definitely tried to keep it private for a while, because it’s a lot,” Blanco said when asked if they considered going public with their relationship sooner only to change their minds.
“I remember us having a conversation about whether we were going to keep dating or not,” the 37-year-old music producer continued. “We just had to make sure, because she’s as big as it gets and it’s a big undertaking.”
Gomez is among the most-followed people on Instagram, with 421 million followers. A former Disney child star, the 32-year-old stars in—and produces—Only Murders in the Building. She also has a slew of hit songs and albums. Most recently, Gomez starred in the Oscar-nominated movie musical, Emilia Pérez.
“It’s not like you date someone for a few weeks and then you’re like, ‘Oh, OK, bye,’” Blanco added. “So we just took it slow.”
It became ‘hard’ for Selena and Benny to ‘hide’ their relationship
Eventually keeping their romance under wraps became exhausting. “It started becoming such a hard thing,” Blanco said. “Because it was like, ‘I don’t want to just have dinner inside with you and have all of our dates inside and we’re wearing a mask the entire date, and then we have to go hide in a car.’”
Ultimately, the pair went public with their relationship in December 2023. Gomez posted a photo of them cozying up together. In the snap, she wore a $3,000 “B” diamond ring, which she recently sold to a fan for $12 during 12 Days of Really Rare Stuff to promote their new album.
Through all the ups and downs of trying to balance a relationship and fame, Blanco knew he and Gomez were in it for the long haul. “I was so sure that I was gonna marry her,” he said. “I just knew. It’s just a very different feeling.”
“I know when Sel wakes up, she’s thinking in her head, ‘How can I make this day as good as I can for Benny?’” he continued. “And I know I’m waking up and saying, ‘How can I make this day as good for Sel?’ We’re just thinking about each other.”
Gomez previously credited safety as why she’s comfortable being more public with Benny
Speaking to The Hollywood Reporter in November 2024, Gomez opened up about being more public about her and Blanco’s relationship. Asked why she shares photos and videos of them, the “Lose You to Love Me” singer shared that it had to do with feeling safe.
“I guess this is the safest I’ve ever felt in [a relationship], and I see a future with this person,” Gomez said. “And when you put a little bit out there, people are not as hungry to hunt you down.”
“But there’s so much of my relationship people don’t see, that’s just mine,” she added.
