Hugh Hefner wasn’t “savvy” sexually despite his reputation for being a lothario with his Playboy Bunnies, his widow, Crystal, reveals in her new memoir.
Describing her experiences as “odd and robotic,” Crystal now realizes her late husband may not have even enjoyed sex with her either individually or during orgies.
“Like Hef was just going through the motions of something that had once been fun and sexy,” she writes in “Only Say Good Things: Surviving Playboy and Finding Myself.”
“Or maybe it was never fun and sexy.”
Crystal, 37, claimed that during sex, the publishing magnate would stare blankly at the ceiling mirror while it was her turn to mount him.
“He seemed less sex-savvy than some of the teenage boys I’d been with years ago,” she writes. “It was clear to me Hef had never taken a moment in his entire life to figure out how to please someone else.”
The widow, who will be reverting to her maiden name Harris, also says no one dared try to give Hugh sex tips.
“I think when you have so much money and power and so many ‘yes people’ around you, you just stick with your own narrative in your mind,” Crystal says, “and then everyone else just goes along with it.”
Hugh, who so heavily relied on erectile dysfunction drugs that he eventually went deaf in one ear, stopped having sex in 2014, which left Crystal feeling “relieved.”
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“There was no more bringing girls home, no more performances,” she explains. “For years, I had been keeping up the Playboy Playmate charade for Hef, for the public.”
Crystal was just 21 when she was invited to stay at the Playboy Mansion in October 2008.
She and Hugh entered into a relationship a few months later and married in 2012.
The couple remained married until Hugh’s death at the age of 91 in 2017.
In hindsight, the former Playboy Playmate realized she was never “in love” with Hugh.
“I realized I was dealing with a really big power imbalance,” she told People last week.
“It seemed like a world of success and fantasy, but everyone’s having to sleep with an 80-year-old. There’s a price,” she continued. “Everything has a price.”
