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Charlotte York had two great loves; Trey MacDougal and Harry Goldenblatt. They are actually alot alike in many ways.
Kristin Davis made a pretty controversial statement on her podcast. Davis, who has spent much of her career playing Charlotte York in Sex and the City and And Just Like That…, argued that Trey MacDougal was a good match for Charlotte. Fans were aghast. Most fans love Charlotte and her current husband, Harry Goldenblatt, together. We love them together, too, but we see where Davis is coming from. Sex and the City fans might argue that Harry Goldenblatt is nothing like Trey MacDougal, but Charlotte’s two main love interests have more in common than you might think.
Harry was influenced by his mother, just like Trey
Bunny MacDougal served as the biggest roadblock in Trey and Charlotte’s marriage. While there were plenty of issues in the union, Bunny was consistently involved in their troubles and seemed to control Trey.
Harry’s mother never appeared in the series, but it’s safe to say he would have been similarly influenced by his mother. In one episode, Harry confesses that he cannot marry Charlotte because he promised his mother that he would marry a Jewish woman. Harry’s mother wasn’t an issue like Bunny’s because she died before Harry and Charlotte met. The ever-beloved Harry was probably more like Trey in this respect that fans would like to admit.
Harry bent to the pressure to marry quickly, too
Harry Goldenblatt and Trey MacDougal came from very different worlds, yet they fell for the same woman. They both allowed Charlotte to talk them into marrying quickly. Trey and Charlotte only dated for a matter of weeks before she suggested they get married, and he agreed. They married after knowing each other for just a few months. While Trey ultimately chose to get married, it was not his idea.
The same is true for Harry Goldenblatt. Once divorced already, Harry didn’t seem particularly interested in rushing down the aisle, even after Charlotte converted to Judaism for him. Despite his quiet disinterest, he proposed to Charlotte before they had known each other for a year. She had a lot to do with that.
Trey and Harry both wanted Charlotte to be happy
There is a key way Trey and Harry are different. One is still married to Charlotte, while the other one’s relationship ended. In the end, Charlotte and Trey divorced, but the end of their marriage wasn’t nearly as dramatic as many moments within it. The end of their union was more of a quiet resignation by Trey MacDougal that he would never be able to make his wife happy. Still, it was clear that he wanted to make her happy. His final show of love, appearing at the apartment for a Good Housekeeping photoshoot, proves he wanted to make Charlotte happy, no matter the cost.
Harry Goldenblatt wanted the same thing. His goal was to make Charlotte happy, even when it made him a little uncomfortable. During their early relationship, he did that by getting his back waxed. Later, he followed her lead when it came to decorating their home and how he interacted with it. While Trey and Harry were different people, they still had a lot in common.
